Why I Totally Retired From Being a Princess

The moment I realized I had enough of all of this princess obsession was after my first company tea party.  I had been feeling really over the whole thing but this was the final straw.  No matter what I did it was never enough for the over entitled parents and their bratty children.  Not all parents or kids are this way BUT THESE WERE!

This was the picture of entitled privilege.  They were raising kids to literally believe they were little princesses.  Not in the be kind and giving to others, no the bratty mean version where the world is to revolve around them and if it doesn’t go their way, start calling people names and demanding it does.  Did I have clients who weren’t soul sucking ass holes? Sure but they were the exception instead of the rule.  In that room filed with parents who refused to believe the rules applied to them ever I saw the destruction flash before my eyes.  What on earth are we teaching our young girls?  That they are to be on pedestals and if they weren’t the center of the universe then just throw a tantrum and ignore them.  

What i realized in this moment was that we are shoving our little girls into teeny tiny boxes that aren’t realistic or frankly healthy.  Yes, the princesses that are worshiped are kind and caring but rarely are they truly independent, caring ambitious women.  Most of them ended up with a man completing their life no matter how smart and independent they started out as they found that their life didn’t matter till they had a man.  There can be arguments about a couple of princesses that are strong and independent but lets be real, its not the rule of princess stories.  Happily ever after was defined by finding a prince and getting married.  

During this moment I had flashes to things that bothered me from my time in the park and saw I was part of the problem not how to build up our girls and young women.  I remembered the little girl who was maybe 6 at the oldest and her parents were shouting out for her to give sexy poses.  She had a full face of makeup and I remember thinking it was off when I saw it and now I can see how wrong it is! 

The princess obsession is purely to keep women in their places, the women’s rights movement was purely to give us the choice to be anything we wanted and here we are going backwards shoving this ideal down their throats that this is what they are expected to be.  What happened to choice?

I could no longer be part of the problem.  I didn’t know what was next but I knew there had to be a better solution than continuing to shove this outdated ideal down their throat, hell even Barbie was a doctor and marine biologist.  She taught girls they could be anything they put their minds to, she even got herself the dream house and convertible without a man, sure she had Ken but she dumped him when it no longer worked for her.  

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The Realities of the Party Princess Industry

The “Party Princess” industry has grown exponentially in the past 3 or so years.  The sudden extreme availability of cheap costumes from China has created an extreme explosion in young, inexperienced girls opening “businesses” because they have always wanted to be a “Princess” not a teacher or a lawyer or a doctor but a princess.  So for a few hundred dollars they can purchase a poorly made dress from cheap fabrics made just for them in a China sweatshop and they too can make dreams come true because “how hard can it be?” and I SHOULD be a princess, I know better than a multi billion dollar corporation.

There are more online Facebook groups than anyone can keep track of asking for how to run a company instead of doing research on businesses and trashing other companies (typically no worse than they are) and theme park performers, its like the halls of high school with a whole other set of mean girls who now feel like top dogs because they wear $200 ballgowns from China and pretend to be cartoon characters.

I found that party companies fell into one of three categories, people who know its a business and treat it as such, people who are in it to stroke their own ego and cling to the idea of being a perfect princess no matter what anyone says and those in it for a .

Now what do I mean by each of these?

In the first where this is a business the owner is separated from having to be a princess and is more than happy to take a back burner on performing, lets be real we can’t play 16 year olds forever.  They know this is a business and not about being a princess, its about the kids and making “magic.”

The second is those in it to stroke their ego and they are often way inappropriate but its about them living the fantasy of being a princess.  The magic be damned its ALL ABOUT THEM and don’t tell them anything that means they aren’t a princess. They are often very sadly still clinging to the idea of being a princess despite not fitting the character they are impersonating!  This is where you most often find the aging princess who simply can’t give it up because they are defined by being a cartoon character.  Please really read that statement they are DEFINED BY A CARTOON!

The third is the simplest, its the people who buy a $50 dress from a party or costume store, maybe use a wig and don’t care beyond the fast buck.  They often have an attitude of “how hard can it be” and “kids don’t notice” when it comes to half assed standards.

Always be careful when either pursuing this line of work, do your research, know the companies and know what they stand for.  At the end of the day protect yourself.

 

Love and Light

Jess

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