When the Spoon Isn’t Full of Sugar

I sat down over a fantastic dinner and drinks with my friend Christen and we chatted about her many years in theme parks.

Christen had a dream just like so many girls, to be a princess.  Stubbornness was the key piece in her hiring.  She decided after enough auditions and fittings they would eventually have to pay her and sure enough that day finally came.

She was hired as part time and as she puts it, its the worst place to be.  You aren’t guaranteed the types or frequency of shifts, and poor Christen was stuck in the costume that is dreaded the most in her height (and it was the only she was approved in).

The glamour and magic of the job ends the first day after training when you realize its just like groundhog day, you literally say the same thing over and over again hundreds of times a day.  As a group her roles performers were incredibly outspoken about serious issues plaguing them, but the things like the health and wellness of the performers was sacrificed time and time again and the process to change it was incredibly slow.  

To this day she is annoyed she spent that time (and much of her voice) on a job that leads no where.  She left with no new skills to help her down the road and never finished her classes, but as she puts it “so many just need to get it out of their system and nothing I can say will change their minds, I wish I could.”  So many girls never finish school (not saying my education has done me a ton of good outside of having that piece of paper), but their lives get put on hold for a job.

Christen recently closed her full time show but has (as per usual style) landed on her feet and performs still in one show and has joined my retired princess life (literally works with me now 😉 ) in the car show industry.  Life after it all isn’t as scary as people think and heck it can be a lot more lucrative!

 

Love and Light,
Jess

P.S. Yes she can say it backwards in the accent 😉 but is there a story you want to hear?

The Girl Who Spent Thousands to Look Like a Princess Tells All About Her Weight

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Anyone remember my amazing friend Sarah Ingle?  She was instantly viral for “spending $14,000 to look like a Disney princess” article here She INSTANTLY had over 300,000 followers within days… DAYS!!  Everyone wanted to watch the freak show which they were sadly disappointed didn’t exist.

Sarah owns Princess Ever After in the Denver Colorado area.  Its a high end company with beautiful custom wigs and gowns.

Sarah’s current following on Instagram after the viral insanity settled is 106k… all from an article that went viral. This article claimed all kinds crazy stuff and the numbers kept going up.  By the time the article reached Asia the articles were claiming she had spent millions… $14k as a business expense turned into millions, the click bait was real!  The oddest story was Inside Edition called Sarah at work on her unpublished phone number, it wasn’t in the directory and even her co-workers struggled to get ahold of this information.  The blow up was insane, I remember how odd it was seeing her face everywhere… I can only imagine what it was like for her.

What came out of all of her sudden Instagram fame came brutal skinny shaming on Instagram that is RELENTLESS! This photo is edited, not for skin tone, not for smoothness but Sarah literally made herself look like she weighed more to avoid the horrible comments.  People mask their shaming as “concerned” and “you’ve lost so much weight.”  Sarah hasn’t lost any weight!

Any time she posts a picture in a swimsuit, crop top or shorts her Instagram page erupts with angry posts about how people are “worried about her.”  When anyone is so afraid of back lash of posting photos of the way they just are naturally we need to examine how we discuss weight, or the fact that we feel comfortable at all telling a woman what her body SHOULD be.  How about we love people for who they are?  Lets stop and really examine the conversation!

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3 Sheet Masks that Changed my Skin

I am sitting here in bed writing this of course with an amazing sheet mask on… which one you ask? Its almost always one of these 4.  Each one has its own amazing benefits.

My number one favorite (and the one I am currently wearing is the Tosowoong Pure Propolis Mask.  Its for sure my go to when I just need a nice pick me up.  It soothes anytime I can see or feel a breakout happening it even helps with that.  Propolis is my favorite ingredient for soothing angry skin hands down.  They claim an entire bottle of essence is in every mask.  Im not sure I believe that claim but I will say it has the most amazing effects:

  • Very hydrating
  • Firming
  • Calming/Soothing (Great for acne and inflammation)
  • Serious brightening power

SKINFOOD is one of my favorite brands to this day.  Their philosophy is that their products are food for your skin and should be as natural as possible.  They make some of my favorite products (ill cover them another day) that are cult level and I tend to agree with them.  The fantastic effects in my opinion are:

  • Brightening effects
  • Firming
  • Super moisturizing

Leaders make a fantastic line of sheet masks easily available all over including Ulta (WHAT?!?!) They have a mask for any and every occasion.  They do exactly as they recommend and this one is no exception. It really combats some of the biggest struggles of aging:

  • Evens skin tone
  • Brightens tired skin
  • Firming

Sheet masks are like a mini vacation, it forces you to stop and calm down for a while and kist take some “you time” while being so refreshing and kind to your skin… Did I mention all of these make my wrinkles vanish? YUP!  I am all about the anti aging!

Love and Light

Jess

P.S. What are your favorite products to have a little “you time?”  I wanna hear all about them!

How This Mermaid Traded her Soul for Fins

This week I spoke with the spunky and fun Miki Leann about her experiences as a certain mermaid friend of ours.  I am loving the candid conversations I continue to have with my princess friends and am grateful that they want the world to know the reality of it all.

She worked for the parks for only a year and a half but the brainwashing stays with her till this day.  She was hired right around her 18th birthday on the west coast after 7 auditions (are we noticing a pattern yet?).  On her very first day of training she knew this wasn’t the fairy tale she thought it was gonna be.

The competition to wear the smallest dress was viscous and brutal.  As an 18 year old its easy to be the skinniest girl in the room and in these entertainment green rooms that puts a giant target on your back.  The harassment because the others were starving themselves became relentless.

 

“There were girls who eat nothing and girls who will eat nothing but chicken nuggets and then throw it all up, everyone has an eating disorder.”  To this day food is a struggle because that was “normal” and “expected.”  When everyday for a year and a half you are made to feel guilty for eating normally, eating nothing but carrots all day becomes the new normal.  Body shaming goes both ways and both are destructive.

The way you are is never enough, because the wig stylists didn’t want to get her a new wig it was thinning in the front because other people were wearing my wig… at the time I wasn’t working often. And I was a performer who often flipped her hair and played with it, and I guess photopass caught a picture of my blonde hair showing in the front and underneath, so cosmo at the end of the day handed me a razor.

The guilt and shame of her size and the constant harassment and name calling “I ended up jumping from 90-120 lbs and then after Disney 20 more.” There is no winning, if you are thin you need to eat and are harassed and shamed for it and if your silhouette is “not ideal”(aka too “large” in their minds).

Miki still struggles to this day to have a healthy relationship with food and self worth.  “People need to know how toxic that environment is”  Her struggle isn’t just her own.  Its the story I hear time and time again about the brain washing of “You aren’t enough” in the theme park environment, how else to they keep people accepting slave wages and feel honored to do so?

You are enough! You are so enough!  Its unbelievable how enough you are! -Sierra Boggess

Love and Light,

Jess

P.S. Are you seeing a pattern yet? I know I am!  Lemme know what you think about what we are finding out.

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