The moment I realized I had enough of all of this princess obsession was after my first company tea party.  I had been feeling really over the whole thing but this was the final straw.  No matter what I did it was never enough for the over entitled parents and their bratty children.  Not all parents or kids are this way BUT THESE WERE!

This was the picture of entitled privilege.  They were raising kids to literally believe they were little princesses.  Not in the be kind and giving to others, no the bratty mean version where the world is to revolve around them and if it doesn’t go their way, start calling people names and demanding it does.  Did I have clients who weren’t soul sucking ass holes? Sure but they were the exception instead of the rule.  In that room filed with parents who refused to believe the rules applied to them ever I saw the destruction flash before my eyes.  What on earth are we teaching our young girls?  That they are to be on pedestals and if they weren’t the center of the universe then just throw a tantrum and ignore them.  

What i realized in this moment was that we are shoving our little girls into teeny tiny boxes that aren’t realistic or frankly healthy.  Yes, the princesses that are worshiped are kind and caring but rarely are they truly independent, caring ambitious women.  Most of them ended up with a man completing their life no matter how smart and independent they started out as they found that their life didn’t matter till they had a man.  There can be arguments about a couple of princesses that are strong and independent but lets be real, its not the rule of princess stories.  Happily ever after was defined by finding a prince and getting married.  

During this moment I had flashes to things that bothered me from my time in the park and saw I was part of the problem not how to build up our girls and young women.  I remembered the little girl who was maybe 6 at the oldest and her parents were shouting out for her to give sexy poses.  She had a full face of makeup and I remember thinking it was off when I saw it and now I can see how wrong it is! 

The princess obsession is purely to keep women in their places, the women’s rights movement was purely to give us the choice to be anything we wanted and here we are going backwards shoving this ideal down their throats that this is what they are expected to be.  What happened to choice?

I could no longer be part of the problem.  I didn’t know what was next but I knew there had to be a better solution than continuing to shove this outdated ideal down their throat, hell even Barbie was a doctor and marine biologist.  She taught girls they could be anything they put their minds to, she even got herself the dream house and convertible without a man, sure she had Ken but she dumped him when it no longer worked for her.  

5 Comments on Why I Totally Retired From Being a Princess

  1. Thank you for these posts! I agree with you! I just had to stop myself from admiring these characters before I become one of their puppets too. In this situation, seeing may not be believing. It’s awful that those parents are brainwashing their own children. Did you know that Walt Disney himself is also a 33rd degree freemason? I guess that’s why he created all these fantasies. I don’t like the idea that most of them used their voice to lure their princes. Kind of like a witch spell.

    • We are brainwashing the freedom and independence out of our women and girls and its so sad! Its crazy and I’m so glad that you found something new to admire… Theres some kick butt women CEOs we SHOULD be teaching our girls about not fairytales!

  2. I get this so well I have two little girls and for Halloween my seven year old wanted to be Chucky’s bride. Which cool you know she liked the movie and some girls at her school bullied her because she wasn’t dressed like a princess. She came home crying telling me she didn’t want to go trick or treating because she wasnt a princess. And I had to explain to her that she didn’t have to be. And a real princess is in her heart. It’s who you are inside. And I think my little girl looked amazing. Some parents worry me on there “princess” expectations of there little girls. This is exactly why I’m worried to do cosplay.

    • I love that you let her be who she is! The extreme expectations for little girls to fit into a box that is impossible to fit into is heart breaking and sets them up to constantly fail in their own eyes!

  3. big, biG, bIG, BIG ups to you. thank you for voicing what needs to be said! don’t get me wrong, I was 5 years old in 1990, grew up watching ALL disney movies + even at a young age, I remember not liking most of the princesses, as they seemed so whiny, helpless + were just hoping that someday their price would come…except for belle, that is — she was a commoner, she was odd, smart, loved her father, didn’t settle for gaston because she wanted adventure in the great wide somewhere, wasn’t looking for love + fell in love with a beast, who happened to be a prince!

    anyway, great post! more people need to read it.

    xo.

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