We are living in highly unprecedented times. The sadness you feel over the loss of normalcy is ok. So many of us lost out on giant milestones, financial freedom and feeling set back or lost, it’s ok! No ones saying that you don’t care about what’s happening in the world but you have had a very real loss.
We have to start giving ourselves a lot of grace. There’s a lot happening in our world and not only are we constantly bombarded with so much information that we can’t escape (thanks commercials during fun programming). We are dealing with what is happening but also what we have lost from all of this.
Not only did we have loss of normalcy we lost any sense of direction. Our previous way of living has been completely turned upside down and can never be the same even when the vaccine gets approved. Life can and will never be what it was so we have lost milestones, experiences and time that we can never get back.
It’s no ones place to tell you that you cannot grieve that loss of normalcy, it’s no ones place to tell you that you can’t be upset that you had to cancel that dream wedding you saved up for for the past 3 years, or your graduation or prom that you have literally been waiting 12 years for. These are all normal milestones we all miss, people are dying however your loss of milestones in your life doesn’t detract from all thats happening.
As a collective we have lost our patterns, we lost our routines and the things we’ve been counting down to and that is enough to take a toll on anyone’s mental health. Even for the most introverted of us time is a blur and each day fades into the next (what day is it actually?) and it makes losing the things we looked forward to that much harder.
The loss of normalcy that we are feeling is ok, it’s normal and don’t let anyone tell you how you should be feeling. It’s ok, it’s important to take this time to do what you need to do to cope and grieve what you lost. The experiences you lost and those feelings don’t detract from what’s going on. The idea of what you “should” feel is toxic and your feelings are valid.
Feel your loss, and grieve those things and experiences you lost, it’s part of everything happening in our world. ITS OK and it’s ok to be not ok. Next find the things that are going to bring you joy, wether that’s Netflix and chilling, a great glass of wine or tackling projects, we all cope with the loss of normalcy and our feelings about everything different.
Remember to give yourself grace, there was never a point where we thought we would all have to lock ourselves inside from a pandemic virus and I don’t think anyone could mentally prepare for it. You’ve got this! There’s no way when planning your dream wedding you could have accounted for this loss of normalcy, or when you started your school year or bought that prom dress. Breathe greave and give yourself grace. One day this will be behind us and you will be proud to have survived and will remember still what you lost.
Grace is the only thing we can give ourselves in this crazy time. You may not get those things and experiences back but you will have a heck of a story! One day this loss of normalcy will all be gone.